Everyone knows that I dropped off of Facebook last spring, just about the time that I left the Masonic fraternity. I had some serious re-evaluations about a few things that I had to do, my choice of friends and who I was going to trust being just two of them. That process is still going on and most likely will go on for the rest of my life, since I don't trust people anywhere near as much now as I did this time last year.
I know there was a lot of negative things (spelled lies) being spread about me, and I decided early on not to waste my time and efforts chasing them down and proving them wrong (which they are) because I knew that people who really knew me and who were really my friends would know they were lies and wouldn't pay them any mind.
That description fits less than a dozen people at the present time. But I'm glad to say that number is slowly growing as people are slowly proving to me that they don't believe the bullshit and want to remain a friend.
One of the ways I've been weeding out the frauds and fake friends/brothers from the genuine, sincere ones is with my new Facebook account. You see, it's like this: when I started this new account the only people I chose to add to my Friends list were my immediate family and a very small, very select few people whom I knew to be genuine friends. I didn't go seeking out the people from my previous account because 90% of them were on my friends list because of their ties with me through the Masonic fraternity. And since the events of last spring showed me just how much my being in the fraternity was no longer desired, I haven't reached out to any of them.
And I won't. I'm going to let them reach out to me. One of the ways I'm doing this is with my Facebook account.
I haven't made a whole lot of posts there as compared to how many I used to make, but I have acknowledged some posts made by friends of mine. And I knew when I did it that there would be people who were on my former friends list that would see it, and that if they wanted to be on my friends list again they would contact me. And they'd do this for one of three reasons.
Reason #1: they didn't believe the bullshit they heard about me last spring and truly want to be my friend.
Reason #2: they don't know what happened last spring because they either aren't in the fraternity or just didn't hear about it.
Reason #3: they heard the lies, they believe the lies, and they want to be my friend again for various nefarious reasons.
As the meme at the top of the page says, I know more than people think I do, and I'm not talking about it.
So now that I've broadcast my strategy, let me say this: just because you send me a friend request doesn't mean I'm going to accept it. I know who the key players in last spring's kangaroo court are, and you can bet your sweet ass that I'll never let those assholes into my life again under any circumstances. I also know who's been talking shit since then, and you can bet I won't let those assholes in either.
You see, it's like this - I'm done asking people to be my friends, either on Facebook or in real life. You either take the time to get to know me and decide for yourself if you want to be in my small circle of friends, or you don't. And if you do, all you have to do is ask. That's no guarantee that I'm gonna let you in, but unless you're in one of those two groups of assholes I just mentioned, you've got nothing to lose.
And if all of this sounds self-important or self-serving or even egotistical, to be honest I really don't care. I'm past the point of caring what other people think about me. You either accept me as I am or you don't.
Your call.



